That's what I love about Sunday

Monday, April 6, 2015


Since having lost Mike's grandmother over a year ago, my grandfather last October, and watching a few family members pack up and move out of Maryland, we've begun to realize just how precious time with our loved ones has become.

It's sad to sit back and reflect on all of the things that will no longer be - Thanksgivings with Grammy and the wild Whits, crab feasts on Mike's mom's back porch where Mike and I met for the very first time, summers down at the river where we celebrated our wedding day, fishing on the pier where Mike proposed, quiet mornings with my grandparents on the porch of their home in the mountains, Christmas celebrations with my grandfather and family all gathered in my parents' living room... the list goes on and on. So many places, so many moments, so many memories. It's hard to think about it without feeling like we're losing something big.

Mike and I have been discussing this whole thing pretty extensively over the last few months trying to come up with ways to cope with that feeling of loss. For a while there, we sort of let ourselves get swept along with everything. We were struggling to find a way to put our feet on the ground and gain some sort of normalcy again. And it wasn't until the Sunday after my grandad passed that we came up with the perfect idea.

When you close one chapter in your life, it's best to start a new one. New traditions, new places, new memories.

So, the Sunday after we returned from the hospital in Pittsburgh in the fall, we went to my parents' house and spent the whole day with them. We went to church, helped my dad smoke some chicken for dinner, watched football, ate together, played games together, and had the happiest Sunday we've experienced in quite some time. It felt so good to take the entire day to really rest and relax.

Every Sunday since then, we've done the exact same thing and we plan to keep the tradition going as long as we can. There's something to be said for taking one day a week to not do much of anything but enjoy time with your loved ones. It gives you something to look forward to, especially after a rough week at work. Sundays are quickly becoming my favorite day of the week!

We wish more of our family lived closer so that we could see them every week, but we are slowly learning ways to find time for making new memories with them, too. We are trying our best to get out to breakfast with Mike's dad at least twice a month and to get over to see his mom and sister in Delaware for long weekends. We are also looking forward to a big reunion with Mike's side of the family at the end of April. We were fortunate enough to have some of Mike's family join us for our Easter celebrations at my parents' house yesterday, too! It's great when we can have everyone together in one place, so we are trying to plan as many get-togethers as we can.

I may not be great at adapting to change, but this strategy seems to be helping. While the bittersweet feelings still linger when I think about all the things that we've said goodbye to, I can't help but feel excited about all of the new traditions we are starting.

Here's to many more Sundays and good times with family and friends!

6 comments:

  1. I'm happy my in-laws live really close, and so do all Brian's brothers and my sister. Everyone else, though, lives in a different continent. It gets pretty depressing at times, but we try to see each other as often as we can. Stay positive, and do try to keep up with the tradition - it sounds like the perfect thing to be doing on a Sunday.

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    1. I can imagine it's got to be really tough living so far away. Especially on completely different continents! It's nice that you still do visit as much as you can, though!

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  2. What a beautiful new tradition! I'm so happy for you that you could take a sad event and use it as inspiration for a positive new chapter in your life.

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    1. Thank you! It's been the best thing we've done in a long time!

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  3. We have experienced a lot of change and loss in the last couple years too. I agree it is so important to make new traditions to replace the old ones. Making memories is so important. We love our Sunday family days as well. :)

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    1. That's great to hear! Any time spent with family is time well spent!

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